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Chisom, 28: I Took a Walk and Ended Up Getting Raped by Street Touts.

My story happened in December last year. I live in a shared apartment with my friend Esther, a Lagosian, and we have been living amicably without any issues for over three years. We have been supportive of one another and also engage in personal development courses for self-growth.

I went to the suburb of Lagos to celebrate the Yuletide season with my friend’s family. It was an amazing celebration because her cousin, who lives in London, was getting married to her boo, and all her relatives from within and outside Lagos came in for the joyous occasion. Esther was the chief bridesmaid, and it was all pomp and pageantry. In fact, from the introduction to the engagement and the wedding, it was the talk of the town for several months. We had the crème of society in attendance. You know how we do it in Lagos State, and I was grateful to my friend who got me the wedding invite because you could only attend the wedding if you had the wedding invite.

After the wedding, the groom had jetted off for their honeymoon in the Maldives, and we decided to stay back and relax until January 2023. We began driving around town with the family driver, went on a boat cruise, and were having the best times of our lives until tragedy happened.

Experiencing the Abuse

One evening, I decided to go on a solo stroll to a nearby village, and while returning, I lost my way on the trail and came across some uncompleted buildings with street touts smoking hemp and drinking spirits. I was afraid. Then, the one that looked like the ring leader came over and asked what I was doing in their territory. I told him that I was lost. He laughed out loud and said, “See JJC,” meaning “Johnny Just Come.” He asked his boys to carry me to their den, then he placed me on the ground and commanded them to leave.

I tried to scream, and he showed me a dagger by his waist and told me he would use it on me if I didn’t cooperate. I told him to please not harm me, that I would cooperate, and he immediately grabbed my throat and pushed me to the floor with one hand, while he used the other hand to remove my clothes. He pulled down his trousers and raped me. He repeated it again and raped me three times.

Then he called his men to give me water because I was struggling to breathe. His boys also wanted to have a feel of me, but because of the state I was in, he asked them to leave. Afterwards, he threatened that if I ever told anyone about it, he would end my life. Then he ordered his boys to drop me off at the main road.

I was grateful to be alive. I waved a taxi down because they took my phone from me and pleaded with him to take me to my friend’s house. The cab man was afraid to help me, but he later felt pity for me. Upon getting home, Esther, who was surprised to see me looking tattered, hit the cab man before realizing he was my helper. She took me in, gave me water to drink, and asked me to narrate my ordeal. After apologizing to and paying the cabman, she even dashed him extra cash for helping me.

After hearing my story, she called the DPO, who was a family friend, and he asked us to come to the station and write a statement. There, we were then referred to the WARIF Centre from the police station.

My Healing Journey

At the Centre, I received medical assessment, treatment, and psycho-social counseling for free. The staff at WARIF Centre are very professional and dedicated in the discharge of their duties. My counseling sessions with the in-house counselor were very helpful and impactful. I was encouraged that it was not my fault and taught coping mechanisms for dealing with trauma.

Lest I forget, I attended the monthly group therapy session at WARIF Centre, and it helped to build my sense of belonging and self-esteem, and I know that I am not alone.

It’s over a year now, and I can confidently say I am in a safe space mentally, emotionally, and psychologically. I have resumed back at work, and I met my spouse after this ordeal, and he proposed to me last week. In short, I feel liberated and I see the light at the end of the tunnel.

For the touts, I must commend the police for the laudable job because they conducted a search which led to the arrest of the touts and destruction of their den. The perpetrator and his cohorts have been charged to court, and I am sure the perpetrator will be convicted at the next court session and sentenced for crimes committed against me.

I look forward to becoming a gender-based advocate, and I am living a transformed life. Many thanks to the WARIF Team!

Dear survivor, please know that you are not alone, and it is not your fault. Help is available. If you have been raped or know someone who has, please visit us at:

The WARIF Centre
6, Turton Street, off Thorburn Avenue, Sabo, Yaba. or call our 24-hour confidential helpline on 0800-9210-0009 For questions or more information please contact: [email protected]